According to a New York child psychiatrist, children suffer greatly in
a divorce due to their almost total dependence upon their parents. When
children perceive that one parent is no longer reliant upon the other
parent, they may feel that they may also not be cherished.
The reaction of children in the event of a divorce may be dependent upon
their age. However, an adjustment period is likely for all children and
many may experience loneliness or stress.
The focus for parents will need to be upon the children.
Child custody and visitation disputes arise and parents too often are unwilling to bend. Fear of making
it too easy upon the other parent could in turn result in parents not
making it any easier for children to adapt to the new circumstances.
It's important for parents to keep consistency in the lives of children
while going through a transition. Both parents should try to keep rules
and routines similar. Keeping a sense of proportion and optimism is also
something that children will pay attention to. Instead of telling children
what they should feel, it's helpful to instead be a good listener.
As family law attorneys we try to keep both parents focused upon what is
in the best interest of the children. Such a focus can minimize problems
that will arise between the parents. Though we feel that out-of-court
custody agreements would be ideal in most circumstances, we also need
to make certain that any agreements prepared will meet all of the contingencies
that parents require.
Source: My Suncoast, "Preventing broken marriages from breaking kids," April 2, 2014